Is a Couples Workshop Right for Us?
by Lisa Blum and Silvina Irwin on 08/01/16
Many people are hesitant to consider a Hold Me Tight Couples’ Workshop…
- Will I have to share our private business in front of others?
- How can one weekend help us, if we’ve been struggling for months/years?
- How do we take what we learn back home and apply it to our everyday life?
- There’s the cost to consider… will it be worthwhile?
These questions make sense; your love relationship is a very
private, very precious part of your life.
You don’t want to wander blindly into just any experience… you need to
know it’s right for you, and will be
truly helpful to you, now and in the long-term.
Here are a few things to consider
when choosing a couples workshop:
·
How are
you working on your relationship now?
Couples need to have a tried and trusted way of
working on struggles in your relationship where you both feel safe, heard,
loving and loved, and where you can get to the heart of issues that are troubling
you. If you are seeking that kind of structure, the Hold Me Tight Workshop
will provide it.
·
Is this
workshop based on sound concepts informed by psychological science, or is it
just the most recent fad on better relationships?
Hold Me Tight® is a nationally-recognized, educational
and experiential workshop for couples to enrich, heal, and strengthen their
relationship. The workshop follows Dr. Susan Johnson’s best-selling book, Hold Me Tight: Seven
Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.
This book outlines the science behind Emotionally Focused Therapy
for Couples, one of only a few research-validated approaches to couples therapy,
and applies it directly to our common relationship struggles.
·
Are the
facilitators experienced?
Your relationship is precious. You don’t want to entrust it to anyone. Drs. Lisa Blum and Silvina
Irwin are both licensed psychologists and relationship experts with 30
years of combined experience helping families and couples create more secure,
fulfilling relationships. They have been
teaching the Hold Me Tight workshop for more than 5 years to consistently
positive and appreciative feedback.
OK, you say, so the workshop
will give us a structure for healing and deepening our relationship; it is
based on science, with its principles outlined in a best-selling book I can
read, taught by experienced and successful facilitators. But how do I know if this workshop is right
for us?
·
Yes, you
have privacy. You learn concepts and
important relationship practices together in a group, but you work on your
relationship in PRIVATE exercises that you do just with your partner. Help is available if you need it,
confidentially.
·
Yes, one
weekend really does make a difference!.
Even if you and your partner have been in cycles of conflict or distance
for months or years, this weekend can shift things because you learn a whole
new way to understand WHY these negative cycles happen, and how to get out of
them. Hold Me Tight principles don’t
just address the symptoms of your struggle – the workshop helps you get to the
root of it. Here are the words of one of
our recent participants, who had just this experience:
“This workshop has been a life-changing
experience. After struggling for years, and on the verge of divorce, we have
finally found a way to communicate our feelings and needs. I am extremely
grateful for this opportunity.”
·
You take
the workshop home with you, literally. Every
participant gets a full notebook of all the exercises in the weekend, and they
are yours to return to any time you need to remember or deepen the good work
you did on the retreat. On the last day
of the workshop, we build in time for you and your partner to PLAN how you are
going to continue your meaningful work at home, even when the hecticness of
daily life returns.
·
The value
of the weekend to your relationship may be…. priceless. Your registration fee for the weekend is all-inclusive, meaning it is for the
two of you (not individual), includes lodging for the weekend, materials, guidance
and assistance from our facilitators in your private exercise sessions, and several
meals and refreshments during the weekend, and a welcome gift. The value of the workshop is extremely high
considering that 14 hours of couples therapy with an experienced therapist
would easily cost several thousand dollars.
The weekend retreat, at a fraction of that, takes couples much farther
in one weekend than months of individual therapy can. This is because of the consistency
and intensity of work a couple can do in a weekend format, away from the
demands and distractions of everyday life.
This is time for JUST the two of you, to focus on each other and
reconnect.
We would love to talk with you and answer any other
questions you may have. Our next Hold Me Tight Workshop is in beautiful Lake
Arrowhead, CA on October 14-16th.
Contact us for
more details.
